“Jitna bhi try karo, life mein kuch na kuch to chootega hi. Toh jahan hain, wahin ka maza lete hai” (No matter how much you try to do in life, you will always miss out on something or the other). Therefore, try to enjoy what you have right here, says Deepika Padukone to Ranbir Kapoor while they were enjoying the Sunset and Ranbir wanted to rush to the Udaipur fire show in the movie “Yeh Jaawani Hai Deewani”.
I got reminded of this scene when I was discussing the competency framework for our Senior Leadership Team – One of the clear trends that emerged was – People who are both successful & satisfied, consciously or sub consciously follow a rule of 3.
A rule of not having more than 3 priorities in life. Largely the priority 1 and 2 is family and work (the ranking could fluctuate). And then there’s only one other thing – the 3rd priority. The 3rd could be a social cause, activism, hobby, partying, sports, philanthropy, socialising, or anything, but it’s just one thing!
Anybody who has a 4th thing on their list is bound to do it at the expense of #1 or #2 – at the expense of not being there for their families, not being able to attend to their children’s PTM, not being able to give more than 100 % at work or feeling guilty about not doing anything for themselves (even a workout)!
Smart people often ride on the confidence that they can do everything in life with equal intensity. And that’s the classic trap; a trap that makes people go thin on all ends. They start feeling frustrated in life. They may know what they should take up, but they don’t know what they should give up. This is not just an observation but a clear conclusion based on so many conversations we have had.
Yes, the way Indra Nooyi (former CEO of PepsiCo) puts it, “You can’t have it all!”, holds true not just for Women but also for Men! Choose your battles wisely for 2021.
May the force be with you and wish you a very Happy & Healthy New Year.